Low Fidelity: The Complete BrickHouse Guide to Catching a Cheating Spouse

Infidelity is one of the most difficult topics we deal with on a day-to-day basis. It’s taboo because it’s sexual, but more than that, it’s isolating; those experiencing doubts about their relationships often don’t have anyone to turn to to discuss their fears rationally.

The products we offer at BrickHouse are designed to get you the evidence you need to answer those tough questions; no matter what that answer may be. Keep in mind, the doubts you have could be completely debunked by the evidence you gather. The most important thing is finding the answer and moving on with your life, for better or worse.

Choosing the right product all depends on your spouse’s habits or infidelity “tells.” There are a number of tells, including everything from unexpected financial woes to changing appearance. For a list of the top ten tells, click here. A major tell, if they spend hours on the computer in secret and password-protect their account, or immediately delete their browser history, it could mean they’re using the computer to arrange an affair, or engaging in any number of other sexual activities online (chatting, porn, etc). In the second part of this series, we’ll be looking into how cell phone and PC monitoring tools can give you the answers you need.

After digital monitoring tools, we’ll discuss hidden cameras and how to choose the best cam for your specific situation. Finally, we’ll talk about your suspicious spouse’s irregular travel patterns and how you can discreetly use GPS trackers to find out where they really are when they say they’re working late.

In this piece we’ll be taking a look at the most effective ways to catch a cheating spouse. Again, the most effective method will be unique to your specific situation. Whatever product gives you the answers you need is the right product for you. We look forward to guiding you through this difficult topic and helping you get the answers you need.

Part 1: Social Media As An Enabler

Now that we’ve learned a little bit about the general methods one can use to catch a cheater, we’ll be looking at how the changing digital landscape has made it easier than ever to cheat; and what you can do to combat new technologies.

It should come as no surprise that, with the advent of social media, it has never been easier for spouses to get in touch with old flames or spark up new ones with co-workers, colleagues, or total strangers. The fastest-rising demographic in social media is users 50 and over; age groups that are much more likely to be married. Rising digital temptations coupled with matrimonial boredom is making social media a major contributing factor in modern divorce. Currently, 80 percent of divorce lawyers have cited cases where social media has been used as evidence for cheating, with Facebook being cited the most often (about 66% of the time).

What’s more, these statistics don’t even take into account the fact that smartphones have made access to all of these networking sites portable, and the number of smartphones has seen an astronomical rise in recent years. If your spouse is spending countless hours on the computer, it’s pretty obvious to assume the worst. But with smartphones, the ability to connect with someone on the side is discreet, and nearly undetectable.

So what do you do if you suspect your spouse of going behind your back? Asking questions and talking it out might lead to lies, further distance, more conflict and other, unrelated issues. If you need to answer tough questions, but you’re afraid of the answer, or you’re worried about what will happen just by asking, then a monitoring device could be the perfect way for you to get the answers you need to alleviate your doubts.

PC What They’re Up To

Computer monitoring is effective, inexpensive, and easy enough for any computer novice to use. The great thing about computer spy devices is that, no matter what you’re looking to track, there is a device perfectly suited for your needs.

Take the Stealth iBot Computer Spy for example; not only does this device log all keystrokes, enabling you to uncover passwords, chat histories, URLs typed, and more, but you can actually set the device to send you screenshots when select words are typed. Say your spouse types the word “motel,” you can set the Stealth iBot to snap a screenshot of the computer screen so you know for sure who they were talking to, and what they were talking about. The Stealth iBot Deluxe will provide all of these services, with the added function of sending you emails automatically of those select screenshots. Both of these high-tech devices are almost completely untraceable by common anti-virus software, so you don’t need to worry about tipping them off.

SPECTOR PRO, a unique computer monitor software package, actually captures video of all computer activity, taking any guesswork out of what might have been said, showing you only what actually happened, in the order it happened. Much like the iBot, SPECTOR PRO is triggered by key phrases. What makes this software unique, however, is that there are versions available for both PC and Mac.

Mobile Monitoring Made Easy

Even if your suspect spouse is careful about their computer activity, their cell phones may be your window into their world of any illicit activity. If you are worried about infidelity, the most likely place your spouse will be messing around is on their smartphone.

At BrickHouse, we offer a number of cell phone monitoring tools designed to give you the answers you need, no matter what type of phone your spouse has. With the iPhone Spy Stick, the Android Spy Stick, the Cell Phone Recon, and the Cell Phone Spy, you’re able to monitor emails, contacts, text messages (even if they’ve been deleted!), browser histories, map searches, and more (full functionality varies from device to device).

For Android and BlackBerry, nothing beats the eBLASTER Mobile Smartphone Monitoring Software. With all of the features of our other devices, plus the added benefit of remote real-time updates and live map views, not only will you know exactly what your spouse is doing on their phone, you’ll also know where they are while they’re doing it. Mobile monitoring from BrickHouse is simple; just find the device that’s right for the phone you’re looking to monitor and you’re all set. Know for sure if the one you love deserves your trust.

Part 2: How to Get Ironclad Video Evidence

In this section, we’ll be looking at gathering video evidence through the use of hidden cameras, and how to choose the best camera to catch a cheating spouse.

Of course, not every infidelity suspect is going to exhibit the same signs. Some spouses will be extra careful not to use their home computer or personal phone to arrange an affair, making the computer and cell monitoring tools that we covered in the previous section ineffective. As we talked about earlier, there are a number of signs of infidelity; but how do you figure out if an affair is happening in your own home? Those other signs may lead you to believe that your spouse is unfaithful, but additionally, if they try and get you out of the house all the time, or if you have a job that keeps you away from home for extended periods, misconduct could be happening right under your nose. How can you know what’s going on when you’re not there?

Video surveillance has been employed by countless private investigators and suspecting spouses for years. If you need to know for sure if an affair is happening in your own home, there is no better, more concrete way than a hidden camera.

Get The Best For You

In choosing a hidden camera, the most important thing is finding the right one for not only your environment, but also for your unique situation. Are you at work for 12 hours at a time? Is it important that the device work in the dark? Do you go out of town for days on end? No matter what the circumstances are, there is a device right for you.

If you’re looking to monitor your bedroom, nothing beats an alarm clock hidden camera. Never looking out of place on any nightstand, an alarm clock has the ability to record in low-light conditions, and is motion activated, ensuring that you get the footage you need no matter how dark it is. Simply set it, head to work, and collect the footage when you get home to find out exactly what’s happening when you’re not around.

Leaving town for days on end can do nothing but allow your insecurities to eat away at you. Choosing a hidden cam with limited storage means that, should something happen once your SD card fills up, you’ll be left without the answers you’re looking for. The Pro model of our AC Adapter Hidden Camera is completely discreet and features overwrite recording so, even if you leave it for days at a time, you’ll still get the most video possible. Again, this hidden cam records based on motion, so you’ll only see what you need to.

If you’re concerned about your spouse finding your recording device, the Black Box Micro HD offers a unique way to film without the risk of discovery. This nondescript black box can be placed in a number of objects from a book to a tissue box, providing an impressive 24 hours of battery life and customizable recording modes without ever arousing the suspicion of your spouse.

Keep an eye on your home when you’re not there with a hidden camera. The important thing to remember is, no matter what the result, video evidence will always show you exactly what’s happening. You may find out that your spouse has done nothing wrong; either way, you’ll know for sure, and you’ll alleviate all the doubts you have.

Part 3: GPS Lets You Know Where They Go

The common infidelity narrative that we hear all the time is that a spouse is “working late” when they’re actually with someone else. The problem is, career-oriented cheaters tend to keep their infidelity chatter (on their phone or computer) confined to the office, making it much harder to look at electronic paper trails to prove if they are or aren’t doing something wrong. These careful spouses also tend to keep their infidelity out of the home as well, making hidden cameras an impractical solution. The question becomes, what do you do when you need to know where they’re really going when they’re away from home?

A GPS tracker provides you with real-time location updates no matter where you are. Check directly on your tablet, PC, or smartphone and find out for sure if they are where they say they are.

Which Tracker Is Right For You?

Choosing a GPS tracker to catch a cheater depends on a number of factors. Do you need a small, covert device? Do they travel for extended periods of time without coming home? Are you looking to avoid monthly fees? The answers to these questions are determining factors in choosing the right tracker for you.

For covert tracking for weeks at a time, the Spark Nano is the device for you. Fitting in the palm of your hand, this real-time device is the Cadillac of covert trackers. Simply hide it somewhere in your spouse’s vehicle and always know where they go. From your PC, tablet, or computer, you can log into the BrickHouse Security GPS platform and see on a map exactly where they’re going, and with detailed reports you’ll know how long they’ve been there. If your spouse says they’re going somewhere specific, you can set up a “geofence,” or digital perimeter, and you will receive an automatic email or text alert if they veer off of that path. This GPS tracker begins tracking as soon as the vehicle begins moving, which maximizes its already stellar battery life. If there’s something fishy going on, the Nano will let you know for sure.

Of course, some spouses are on the road for extended periods of time. While the Spark Nano is great for short tracking intervals, if your spouse ends up messing around when the device’s battery is dead, you’re in the same position as when you started. A hardwired tracker, like the BrickHouse HCT Plus, installs directly into the car’s power source, eliminating the worry that the device will die on you. This hardwired tracker provides the same unparalleled level of functionality as the Spark Nano (geofencing, detailed reports, live viewing on any device) but removes the battery life issue from the equation.

Both hardwired and real-time trackers provide an amazing service, but that service comes with a monthly price. If you’re looking to find out where your spouse has been, but knowing where they are at any given moment isn’t the most essential information for you, a GPS Data Logger, like the iTrail, could be perfect for you. This tiny, covert device will last up to 120 hours on a single charge and captures location, speed and time. With this logger, you’ll be able to find out for sure where they really go when they’re away from home. Simply recover the device when they return home, plug the iTrail into your computer, and extract all of the location data, perfectly plotted on a map; with no monthly fees.

GPS devices are a surefire way to get the answers you need to the toughest question you may ever have. Get rid of any doubt with one of these tech marvels.

In Conclusion

Regardless of your unique situation, there is a way to find out for sure if the one you love is deserving of your trust. And no matter what the outcome is, the important thing is knowing the truth and being able to move on with your life.

About the author  ⁄ Erik Helin

Erik is the chief Copywriter with BrickHouse Security. Hailing from the Midwest (Wisconsin), Erik moved to NYC in 2010, securing a job at BrickHouse shortly thereafter. Outside of work he writes about music, does freelance advertising work, and wastes his life on the internet. Aside from no-brainers like cheese and beer, Erik enjoys music, travel, TV, his cat, and Brooklyn.

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